Unhealthy teen relationships may still need room to grow

Janus Bazan is the guidance counsellor department head at Kelvin High School.

 

Emily Bernardin may only be 19 years old, but she knows a thing or two about love, and what it’s like to be in an unhealthy relationship.

“I had some bad experiences, but I’ve grown from them,” said Bernardin, who credits her mother for giving her room to grow.

“My mom knew [about the bad relationship]. We talked about it a lot and she knew she couldn’t make me do anything. She was just there for me through the whole thing, and watched as it fell apart,” said Bernardin.

Guidance counsellors at Kelvin High School watch things fall apart and get put back together on a daily basis. For counsellors such as Janus Bazan, it comes with an understanding of how formative and intense the high school years can be.

“For some adults, it’s a little difficult to imagine that somebody at 15 or 16 can actually love, but it’s so strong. It’s there,” said Bazan.

(Excerpt from Kim Kaschor’s article for CBC News- read more)

Life at Diablo Valley College – Taking the Road Less Traveled from Dublin High School

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As graduation was soon approaching, many of my friends had asked me where I had applied to. Their faces said enough when I nonchalantly said, “DVC.” I felt like in that moment they thought slightly lower of me. They didn’t think I was dumb; they just thought my decision was where the dumb people go. This is a common misconception of many Dublin High School students. Students joke about their bad test scores and say, “Well, I guess I’m going to Las Po!” At a school like Dublin High, the best is what anyone strives for. It’s not outwardly said that every graduate must go to a highly accredited four year, but it is heavily implied within the student body. The student body has this belief that if one does not get into a decent college, their future is completely done with. I’m writing this article to prove, with my case, that it is in fact a misconception.

Excerpt from Alyssia Arriaga’s post in One Dublin.org. Read more

Long Distance Relationships

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Relationships can be stressful enough without throwing in the wrench of long distance. On the flip side, giving up on a meaningful relationship can come with its own traumas and regrets. “Long distance requires work and sacrifice, but if it’s the right relationship and the effort is mutual, it can be amazing,” says psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole. “Understanding why you’re considering staying together is important: Is it fear of being alone or hurting the other person’s feelings or do you really see yourself with this person long-term?”

Excerpt from Sharon Feiereisen’s article in Teen Vogue. Read more.

Cookbook speaks volumes for autistic teen’s many accomplishments

Chase Bailey prepares his "Sweet French Breakfast," featured in his new cookbook. | Jessica Nicosia-Nadler Photo

It’s the endearing smile that first captivates you. It’s followed quickly by an equally engaging and easygoing on-camera presence, smart conversation peppered with plenty of humor, and a professionalism that belies the age of this young YouTube star.

But that’s only scratching the surface of Chase Bailey, a California wunderkind whose been inspiring children and adults for the past two years via his cooking show channel on YouTube, his website and  his latest venture, “The Official Chase ‘N Yur Face Cookbook,” which features 75 original recipes as well as anecdotes and culinary tips/fun facts. (The book is available via Amazon, Barnes & Noble; a portion of the proceeds from the book’s sale will benefit Bailey’s Chase Yur Dreams Foundation.)

(Excerpt from Miriam Di Nunzio’s article in Entertainment- read more)

In our opinion: Operation Safety Net to take on suicide risk among LGBT youth

 

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State health officials recently reported an alarming increase in rates of suicide among teenagers in Utah, to the point that it is now the leading cause of death among children 10 to 17. The exact reasons for the increase are not entirely clear, but there is a great deal of informed speculation taking place about what is clearly a community problem of tragic proportions. We are seeing a growing level of public awareness as well as a willingness to discuss the issue openly and candidly and move toward finding solutions.

This is healthy and positive, particularly in the category of suicide rates among lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth. Statistics would indicate that LGBT teens are four times more likely to engage in suicidal behavior, and potentially less likely to seek help. Various organizations are working to better understand the problem and identify ways to take action, including a new program called Operation Safety Net, which deserves credit for furthering a community dialogue about an issue that is highly sensitive and often difficult to speak of in policy circles, as well as in family settings. Read more

The Teen’s Guide

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Life as a teen is by no means easy. Everything is changing both physically and emotionally and yet you are thrust in to the most intense situations of your young life, discovering heartbreak, anxiety, low self esteem and peer pressure along the way. In a teenager’s world, developing lasting, meaningful relationships can also be a challenge.
Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/love-family/teens/galleries/the-teens-guide-how-to-understand-yourself-and-improve-your-relationships.

What are you worth?

Worth

A poem by Violet

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If I were worth a minute of your time,
I’d fill that minute with the violence of a war
for reminding me of what I lack
what grace and charm I’ll never possess,
the futility of buying a fifty- dollar dress.

For the friends who claimed hatred for you on my behalf
the stockings which, despite valiant effort,
couldn’t hold my gut in all the way.

For the stomach, sore with cuts
from the scissors of self-vengeance,
with which I wandered that night in the rain,
stranger to any kind of strength,
and lay staring into my dark room for no reason.

Excerpt from Make the Best of Your Teen Years: 105 Ways to Do It