What Do You Like Best about Yourself?

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Teens like a wide variety of things about themselves. Being able to entertain friends or having a nice personality come to mind for several of the teens I talked with. If you are fun to be around, you will be popular and never lacking for company. Did you ever wonder what makes you attractive to others? It’s not so much what you look like. Being very pretty or handsome might even make others jealous.

A researcher in the nineteen sixties studied what people look for in a friend. The number one quality is being able to listen. If you can keep your mouth shut when you need to, hear what someone is saying, and understand how that person feels, you will be very much in demand. As Amy puts it, “I have the ability to put myself in others’ shoes.”

Some see their sense of themselves as their best quality. Ellie says, “I know who I am and stick with my values.” This is not always easy to do. You have to think about what’s important to you and decide that what you believe in is more important than making others happy.

Did you know it’s impossible to keep everyone happy? No matter what you do, there will be some people who like what you do and others who don’t. If you follow your own sense of values, you will attract friends who respect what you believe in. You probably wouldn’t enjoy the company of others who don’t share your values anyway.

Can you imagine having a friend who changes his or her mind all the time? Maybe you have a friend like this. You never know what to expect and probably wouldn’t be able to count on that person for anything important. Being consistent in your values makes it easier for you to decide what to do when something really important happens. It also helps your friends know what to expect from you. Consistency is probably the most important quality of a good friend after being a good listener.

Other teens like their physical qualities such as their appearance or sports ability. As with personality, these might be just as much a reason for others to be jealous as to like you. However, what is important is that your physical appearance or sports ability might give you some confidence which you might not otherwise have. Your self confidence just might attract others more than your special abilities or appearance.

Sometimes it is not so easy to choose one quality you like best about yourself. Punkman sees his grades and willingness to help others who need him as tied for his best qualities. This is not surprising. Most teens have several things they like about themselves. Did you know it’s easier to think of things you don’t like about yourself than things you do like? When I asked teens and adults in counseling to make two lists, the list of dislikes is usually longer than the list of likes. Maybe people tend to take their good qualities for granted.

Excerpt from my book, Make the Best of Your Teen Years

How parents can spot the signs of teenage stress

How parents can spot the signs of teenage stress

STRESS is one of the downsides of adult life, but it seems to be an increasingly common problem for teenagers, too.

New research has found that 88 per cent of 12-to-18-year-olds have experienced stress in the past 12 months, and the average teenager feels stressed twice a week. In two thirds of cases, this has led to symptoms of stress-related illnesses including insomnia, eating disorders and depression.

The research, carried out by youth empowerment programme the National Citizen Service (NCS), found it’s not just teens who are feeling anxious – one in five 12-year-olds report feeling stressed about their future plans.

Excerpt from Lisa Salmon’s article in the Irish News– Read more.

Teens and Type 2 Diabetes

The number of teens living with type 2 diabetes has increased in recent years.

Managing diabetes as a teen or adolescent can come with different challenges than an adult may face.

The materials below were developed specifically for teens with diabetes.

Be Healthy Today; Be Healthy For Life (Free Download)

Be Healthy Today; Be Healthy For Life

Information for Youth and Their Families Living With Type 2 Diabetes

You can read, download or print the entire PDF document (32 pages) or access it by section:

Entire 32-page booklet (900 KB PDF)

– See more at: http://www.diabetes.org/living-with-diabetes/parents-and-kids/children-and-type-2/?referrer=https://www.google.com/?utm_source=email&utm_medium=consumer-enews&utm_content=091015-link&utm_campaign=SD#sthash.37c5XsLR.dpuf

Reposted from American Diabetes Organization- Read More

Good sleep can lower effects of stress in kids

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Eight to nine hours of good quality sleep every night, combined with other healthy lifestyle behaviours, can reduce the negative consequences of stress in kids, suggests new research.

Getting a good night’s sleep might buffer the impact of stress on kids’ Cortisol level, which is a hormone produced in the adrenal gland to regulate the body’s cardiovascular, metabolic and immune systems.

Excerpt from an article in The Indian Express- Read more

Small Amounts of Teen Exercise Reduce Cancer and Heart Deaths Mid-Life

Teen gymnast (Source: Wikimedia)

Teen girls who exercise as little as an hour a week for three months may reduce, to a surprising degree, risk of death from many diseases in adulthood, according to a Vanderbilt University study in Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers and Prevention.

Excerpt for Cynthia Fox’s article in Bioscience Technology.com- Read more